Setting and Reaching Goals

4 Questions to Determine If Reaching a Goal Is a Good Idea

September 15, 2021

Here are four questions to determine if a particular goal is right for you.  How would you answer them?


#1 - Will it Make Me Happy?


The first question you have to ask yourself before committing to any goal: Will reaching this goal give my life meaning? Will it make me feel happy?


To answer that question, you have to know what it is you want from life.

Look at your beliefs and your values. And consider the dreams you had for your life when you were younger but forgot about when you got older.  How does reaching this goal fit?


#2 - Is This Something I Want?


If you’re going to work to reach your goals, make sure these goals are for you and not to please other people. After all, it’s your life. No one is going to live it for you.


Keep in mind that the only person you should compare yourself to is you.


The best thing to do is to focus on your progress. Be proud of how much you’ve achieved and concentrate your energy on where you’re going next.


#3 - Will It Improve My Life?


Your goal can be something big like moving to a smaller house or changing your job. Or it can be small, such as completing reading a special book or rearranging your closet.


Whatever it is, think about all the ways it can improve the quality of your life.  Any goal you pursue must make your life easier, less stressful, and happier.


#4 - Am I Letting Fear Hold Me Back?


Being afraid is natural, but letting fear control you isn’t.


There is one thing that all successful people do - they don’t let their fears take over their lives. They learn how to face whatever it is that’s giving them butterflies in their stomachs. Then, they take a deep breath and jump in.


No matter what your goal is, you have to muster your courage and then work towards your goal with your head up and your eyes straight ahead.  Once you’ve achieved your goal, you’ll come out the other side a stronger, more confident person.

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Vivian Harte

Vivian Harte teaches self-confidence and self-esteem through multiple online courses and workshops.  She is the co-author of Self-Esteem for Dummies in the Dummies series.  She has taught over 18,000 people how to be more assertive and confident over the past 20 years.






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